It’s no secret: when we embody confidence, we feel and do better. Not only that, other people are more attracted to and influenced by us when we exude greater levels of confidence. But, confidence can be a tricky thing to sustain. How can we keep our self-talk positive when we’re feeling overwhelmed? To answer that question, three global workplace experts shared their best confidence advice.
Minda Harts: Break Free From Impostor Syndrome
Minda Harts, author and workplace consultant, says that confidence comes down to ending toxic relationships with Impostor Syndrome (a nagging feeling of inadequacy, despite proven accomplishments).
Harts says, “Break up with Impostor Syndrome. To be more confident, you cannot question yourself or engage in negative self-talk. Confidence and Impostor Syndrome cannot exist at the same time. If we aren’t careful one will become stronger than the other. Mute any voices (internally or externally) that don’t allow you to be the best version of yourself.”
Confidence blossoms when you understand and distance yourself from the voices (both your own and others’) that are holding you back. When you protect yourself from negativity, your confidence grows.
Selena Rezvani: Connect With the Person, Not the Power
Selena Rezvani, a leadership expert and author, offered advice on confidence building when interacting with people who you may find intimidating. By humanizing those you perceive as powerful, you can connect on a personal level. Remember, even the most influential individuals put their pants on the same way you do in the morning. Find common ground, and the intimidation factor will dwindle.
Rezvani shares, “When you want to summon confidence, particularly around people who intimidate you, make a point to interact with the ‘person’ and not the ‘power.’ So for example, don’t talk to Jennifer, the big-deal CMO of a giant Fortune 50 organization. Make a point to speak to Jennifer, the flesh and blood person, who is most likely also a friend, and possibly a sister, or a mom. She is a human who you probably have plenty of things in common with.” Rezvani recommends making a point to find shared goals or experiences with another person, and to build on that.
If all of that fails, Rezvani suggests doing some comic visualization: “Picture that intimidating person doing ballet in a Batman costume.”
Angela Duckworth: Set Achievable Goals
When we set our sights on lofty goals, we often feel defeated when we don’t cross the finish line right away. It’s better to focus on bite-sized, achievable tasks to keep ourselves motivated.
Angela Duckworth, professor and bestselling author says, “A lot of confidence comes from small wins. So, if you’re feeling defeated, set your sights on a target you know you can achieve. Sometimes, I write down in my to-do list something I’ve already half-done. Checking it off as done gives me momentum for the next, harder task!”
Try experimenting with these confidence tips. You’ll feel better, and your career will thank you.
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